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  • Days of Broken Arrows
on January 1, 2013 at 5:55 pm
Wanting is one thing. Deep down, every man wants to screw every attractive woman he sees. But beyond the fact that most guys are limited in this, the “want” factor gets dialed down when you play the scenario through.

Sure, you might want to screw this one, but she’ll make your life hell; the other one will whine and tell everyone you’re a cad and that will end that. So “want” is both an instinctive thing and an intellectual one. If sex could all be emotion-free, it’d be easy.


on January 1, 2013 at 7:45 pm
“Sure, you might want to screw this one, but she’ll make your life hell; the other one will whine and tell everyone you’re a cad and that will end that.”

This is a good example (no offense intended here, I know you’re exaggerating) of what I wrote down below where society conditions guys to think that there’s always some other shoe about to drop with sex and that there’ll be all these negative consequences (losing your relationship, drama, losing your time, headaches etc etc).

The notion that you can just have strings-free casual sexual relationships with multiple women who know you have those same relationships with other women besides them is like, not even a possibility to most guys. Even Naturals tend to get wrapped up in drama etc. PUAs are the only ones who really consciously approach creating these relationships efficiently and with as little long-term drama as possible and purposely figuring out how to keep them going for as long as possible (though some guys like the one night stand short-term stuff).