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No one mentions here the potential emotional trauma that the MAN might experience trying to live out her fantasy for her - the emotional and even physical pain that he might experience forcing a woman he loves (or at least likes) to have sex while she fights and struggles and screams for help.
Sure, that sort of thing can be hot IN A MUTUALLY CONSENSUAL SITUATION, wherein both parties have agreed to boundaries, safe words, and possibly even an explicit written agreement. But without them? No way in hell I would go there myself, and many men I know - kinky men, dominant, sadistic men - would agree with me about that.
Nor does anyone consider the aftercare involved in a physically and emotionally traumatic scene... aftercare for which he would be responsible, but probably would not receive himself.
"Live" rape fantasties are emotional and often physical nitroglycerine. One wrong move, and everything's destroyed... especially in a man-rapes-woman scenario. Why, then, would someone assume that the GUY should remain emotionally unscarred in such a situation? Leaving the potential legal ramifications on the sidelines, this woman's desire to be "really" raped by her lover displays a disturbing lack of empathy, wisdom, and respect for all parties involved.
Rape requires at least two parties: someone willing and someone not. Am I the only one who wonders, in a situation such as what this woman says she wants, who'd really be raping whom?
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Posted by Satyrblade on January 14, 2011 at 8:39 AM · Report
Satyrblade6
As a male with several female friends who share a fondness for rape fantasies; several lovers and former lovers who actually HAVE been raped; and an enjoyable - but deeply careful and conscious - taste for rough sex and BDSM, I can tell you what squicks me about this scenario:
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No one mentions here the potential emotional trauma that the MAN might experience trying to live out her fantasy for her - the emotional and even physical pain that he might experience forcing a woman he loves (or at least likes) to have sex while she fights and struggles and screams for help.
Sure, that sort of thing can be hot IN A MUTUALLY CONSENSUAL SITUATION, wherein both parties have agreed to boundaries, safe words, and possibly even an explicit written agreement. But without them? No way in hell I would go there myself, and many men I know - kinky men, dominant, sadistic men - would agree with me about that.
Nor does anyone consider the aftercare involved in a physically and emotionally traumatic scene... aftercare for which he would be responsible, but probably would not receive himself.
"Live" rape fantasties are emotional and often physical nitroglycerine. One wrong move, and everything's destroyed... especially in a man-rapes-woman scenario. Why, then, would someone assume that the GUY should remain emotionally unscarred in such a situation? Leaving the potential legal ramifications on the sidelines, this woman's desire to be "really" raped by her lover displays a disturbing lack of empathy, wisdom, and respect for all parties involved.
Rape requires at least two parties: someone willing and someone not. Am I the only one who wonders, in a situation such as what this woman says she wants, who'd really be raping whom?
More...
Posted by Satyrblade on January 14, 2011 at 8:39 AM · Report
Satyrblade6
As a male with several female friends who share a fondness for rape fantasies; several lovers and former lovers who actually HAVE been raped; and an enjoyable - but deeply careful and conscious - taste for rough sex and BDSM, I can tell you what squicks me about this scenario: